November/2009
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As we approach a season of gift giving we face a number of challenges. What do you give to a senior who is trying to "downsize" or who already has what he or she needs? How do we approach seeking out a caregiver, which is often a gift to both the person needing care and to their family? How do seniors with limited time and money participate in this time of giving? And how do we practice giving thanks for the gifts already in our lives? In this issue of Engage we offer creative ideas for giving to seniors, advice on choosing a caregiver for your situation and family, and creative ways for seniors to give of themselves. There are so many ways to share our lives. And the greatest surprise is that we often receive back more than we offer. We hope these stories will encourage you during the joy and the challenges of the holidays. 
 
We hope you will share Engage with your family and friends.
 
Sincerely,
 
Institute on Aging
Helping Bay Area Seniors Live Independently
 
Creative, Healthy Holiday Gifts for Seniors
Excerpted from USA Today
 
gift"Finding the perfect holiday present rarely is easy, especially when it's for an elderly relative or friend who seems to have acquired almost everything imaginable. Perhaps the best way to indicate to older adults how much you care would be a gift that will help them stay healthy, suggest experts at University of Wisconsin Hospital and Clinics.

"Choosing healthful gifts shows you are interested in someone's well-being," indicates Barb King, a geriatric nurse practitioner. They also can show a lot of creativity on the part of the giver.
 
One of the most popular healthful gifts is a membership in a fitness class. If an older adult agrees to join an exercise program, make sure he or she first receives a physician's evaluation. In addition to testing for over-all health, the doctor may uncover a condition that could affect an exercise regimen, such as high blood pressure. Also, be sure to look for exercise facilities staffed by professionals trained in the special needs of older adults.

Other practical gift ideas for older adults include:

For the home: Consider an insulation check, which might include installing storm windows, weatherstripping the windows, and buying draft stoppers for the door.

In the kitchen. Because heavy rain can keep older adults inside for several days, consider a "rainy day basket" filled with items such as soups, tea, cereals, and dried fruits.

Clothing. Because many older adults have circulatory problems, slippers and socks may be welcome. Or look for a coat made of water-repellant material with insulation that helps keep warm air near the body.

Budget-stretchers. Consider paying for an older adult's prescriptions. Pre-purchase cab fares or bus service, or take an older adult out once a week...."
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How to Select a Caregiver  
By Cheri Jackson, Director, Older Adults Care Management
 
asian mother and daughterIn the next two decades, with baby boomers aging and older adults living longer, more caregiving help than ever will be needed if people are to remain at home, where 90% of us would prefer to be. Although families and friends do what they can, it often becomes necessary to hire someone to help with personal care, meal preparation, transportation and other daily needs

Probably the most important factor in selecting a caregiver is keeping the client involved in the process. None of us wants to be thrown together with someone with whom we feel uncomfortable. Most clients, given a choice, would prefer to have a son or daughter care for them, but with families' busy lives and geographic separations, a paid caregiver can be a lifesaver. Luckily, the paraprofession of caregiving has grown along with the need for it, and there are many compassionate and competent people willing to do the job.

Selecting a qualified caregiver can make a dramatic difference in the quality of life of an elder and of his or her family. Managing the hiring process thoughtfully, taking into consideration the client's wants and needs and communicating openly, can ensure a successful long-term caregiving experience....Learn More

Community Events  
 
Forest Stewardship
Give to the community. Help take care of newly planted trees. Volunteers will assist with weeding, mulching, and other stewardship activities. Every 2nd Friday of the month
When: November 13, 9am-Noon.  
Info: For information and meeting location, contact the Presidio Trust Volunteer Coordinator at (415) 561-5333 or volunteer@presidiotrust.gov

Seniors on the Move: Senior Citizens Conference
A discussion of all that is important to the senior community, including federal, state and local issues. Sponsored by Congresswoman Jackie Speier in conjunction with San Mateo County Supervisor Adrienne J. Tissier. Admission is free and lunch will be provided. Please register by November 13.
When: Friday, December 4, 2009, 9:00am - 3:00pm
Where: South San Francisco Conference Center
255 South Airport Blvd.,
South San Francisco, CA 94080
Cost: Free Admission, Free Parking
Info: Call (650) 342-0300 or download a Registration Form 
 
Free Wednesdays at the California Academy of Sciences
The 3rd Wednesday of each month, visitors to the California Academy of Sciences will enjoy free admission to Steinhart Aquarium, Morrison Planetarium and Kimball Natural History Museum.
When: November 18th, 9:30am-5:00pm
Cost: FREE
Info: Call (415) 379-8000 or visit www.calacademy.org
 
Cable Car Caroling

Give music and support to Bay Area seniors. Tour San Francisco on motorized cable cars, stopping to carol at senior homes and residences. Festivities culminate with a holiday dinner, silent auction and prize raffle. Ticket proceeds support the Center for Elderly Suicide Prevention and Grief Related Services.
When: December 6, 2009, 12:00 - 5:30 PM
Where: The Presidio Officers' Club
50 Moraga Avenue, San Francisco
Info: Visit www.cablecarcaroling.org for event information and to purchase tickets.

ENCOURAGE
 
Dear Encourage,
I am encouraged by something I discovered recently about myself: I started volunteering at a youth center helping teens with their homework because a friend of mine was doing it and she thought it might be good for me to try something new.  And guess what? I am finding that my helping others is also helping me! I have been living with chronic pain from arthritis for a long time and somehow this work has brought me some relief-the pain is still present, but it has subsided quite a bit. I am feeling better and better and have more energy than before I started volunteering.
 
Can this be possible that helping others is actually relieving the severity of my chronic pain?
- Pleasantly Surprised
 
Dear Pleasantly Surprised,
What you are describing has been referred to as the "Helper's High." Stephen Post explains why in his book, "Why Good Things Happen to Good People." He provides scientific evidence that indicates that giving of one's time (or money) not only feels good, but can also improve one's health.

"Giving is as good for the giver as it is for the receiver. Science says it's so. We'll be happier, healthier, and even -- odds are -- live a little longer if we're generous. To get involved with someone else's problems makes your problems look a lot less," Post said.

Post also points out in his book that there are at least five studies showing that seniors who gave tended to live longer. A research project at Duke University Medical Center provided evidence that individuals with a history of heart attacks who were asked to visit patients hospitalized with cardiac problems and listen and be a supportive and reassuring presence to these patients had better health themselves after their heart attacks.

The following are some possible benefits of giving to others:
· Strengthening the immune-system.
· A decrease in both the intensity and the awareness of physical pain.
· Activation of the emotions that are vital to the maintaining good health.
· Reduction of the incidence of attitudes, such as chronic hostility, that negatively arouse and damage the body.
· The multiple benefits to the body's systems provided by stress relief.
· Experiencing a "helper's high," a rush of euphoria, followed by a longer period of calm, after performing a kind act.

Thank you for bringing this pleasantly surprising revelation to the attention of others. It seems that in our society, we are in the habit of reacting to our physical and emotional pain by either taking a pill or doing nothing when in fact reaching out to others may be just what the doctor would order!

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HERITAGE
 
 Every month we highlight a family tradition, such as a recipe, a craft, or a cultural holiday.  Please  suggest a tradition from your family!

This month's family tradition:
 
Giving Thanks
and Saying Grace
 
family holding hands saying grace

Many households observe the tradition of pausing before a meal to give thanks for the food and other good things in their lives and on their tables.
For family meals or when entertaining, unless your religion has a specific guideline, you can be creative in deciding how grace will be said.

Click here for ideas on giving thanks from different traditions and faiths.  

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