I honor you for bringing this up and as you said, there are many people who do not have a "Valentine" on this day. I think we need to reflect upon what this day symbolizes....love, connection, kindness and perhaps think outside the box and challenge ourselves to find a different definition for "Valentine." Why does it have to imply the love shared by two people who are each other's significant other? So many ideas need redefining as we move through different stages of our development and perhaps we need to add "Valentine" to that list. In Bell Hooks's book, All About Love, she offers us a definition of love that was created by M. Scott Peck in his classic self-help book The Road Less Traveled. He defines love as "the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."

Why not think of being your own Valentine? I suggest that you do something nice for yourself on Valentine's Day to celebrate you. Perhaps prepare a favorite meal and invite a friend over or go to a movie you have wanted to see or schedule a massage or buy those earrings that you have been admiring. After all, our relationship with ourselves is an important one to nurture since we spend all day and every day with ourselves!